@Mecca I didn't put this out there when it happened, but I just had to kick my eldest out two weeks ago. He screamed at me calling me an effin B, calling me an effin C%nt, telling me I was dead to him and that he hated me. All because he wasn't doing what I was asking him to do and wasn't following the rules of our home so I gave him a written list. I told him to take the trash out daily, keep his room picked up, not to punch the walls, quit screaming at the top of his lungs at the computer, and that we all ate supper at the table with no phones. That's it. He lost his mind and went nuts. He has many issues and was diagnosed with ODD and ADHD, but that doesn't give him the right to disrespect me, the rest of this family or this home. It's very hard, but he was old enough to know/act/do better.